Feeling the burnout hard in my own world, and I'm not even the one home with kiddo all the time. With gma in town, my wife offered me this weekend to do what I needed to for rest and rejuvenation - took the dog to the ocean for a couple of days. So grateful for the time to rest.
Self-care and community go hand n hand- as a single parent to a child with extra needs, no family and no support system, it is a rare occasion when I get an opportunity for quality self-care without interruption.
If we are not blessed with a large family or support system willing to chip in or if we cannot afford to buy our village (nanny, housekeeper, petsitter, lawn mower, chef, a decent school, a therapist, a massage etc...) then we are the parents left for dead in society- because of the dominator-predator narcissist system we live in.
So, I have designed a brand new system, Mother Lands foundation and villages- of course, in my own isolated, constricted, unsupportive circumstances, it is slow to get going but I have kept chipping away at it with a plastic spoon since 2017 and I will continue to do so until something changes because yes- the entire system needs a total overhaul if we want to see actual improvements
That's great Angela! I think "quality self-care without interruption" may be too far a reach for many, but self-care that fits into any life, any routine, is available to everyone. A conscious breath. A well-placed "no" to a request you don't have the energy to grant. A big full-body yawn whenever you feel stiff or tired. A moment of gratitude for someone or something...
I know it's not the same as having a nanny and a chef, and yes the systems need changing. We will keep chipping away. That plastic spoon of yours is a light saber!
Feeling the burnout hard in my own world, and I'm not even the one home with kiddo all the time. With gma in town, my wife offered me this weekend to do what I needed to for rest and rejuvenation - took the dog to the ocean for a couple of days. So grateful for the time to rest.
Savor it Sean!
Self-care and community go hand n hand- as a single parent to a child with extra needs, no family and no support system, it is a rare occasion when I get an opportunity for quality self-care without interruption.
If we are not blessed with a large family or support system willing to chip in or if we cannot afford to buy our village (nanny, housekeeper, petsitter, lawn mower, chef, a decent school, a therapist, a massage etc...) then we are the parents left for dead in society- because of the dominator-predator narcissist system we live in.
So, I have designed a brand new system, Mother Lands foundation and villages- of course, in my own isolated, constricted, unsupportive circumstances, it is slow to get going but I have kept chipping away at it with a plastic spoon since 2017 and I will continue to do so until something changes because yes- the entire system needs a total overhaul if we want to see actual improvements
That's great Angela! I think "quality self-care without interruption" may be too far a reach for many, but self-care that fits into any life, any routine, is available to everyone. A conscious breath. A well-placed "no" to a request you don't have the energy to grant. A big full-body yawn whenever you feel stiff or tired. A moment of gratitude for someone or something...
I know it's not the same as having a nanny and a chef, and yes the systems need changing. We will keep chipping away. That plastic spoon of yours is a light saber!