How Can Our Culture Escape the Trap of Mom Rage?

Here’s why mom rage IS about the larger social structures, and why shame is never the answer.

When I started this newsletter almost 2 years ago, it was a messy sandbox of my thoughts about trying to parent my neurodivergent kid mindfully in an ableist world.

As the community has grown, especially when

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recommended us, I’ve worried more about writing the “right kind of content,” even though I know that sharing my truth with you is the most healing for both of us.

I’ve held this post back for weeks, and I don’t regret that. I don’t like to post when I’m triggered, but this topic pushes my buttons every minute of every day, so here goes.

This is the only way I know to be helpful right now. The othering and dehumanization happening inside ourselves fuels the worldwide othering and dehumanizing. They are not separate. When we turn our rage on ourselves, there’s a generational cost to that, too.

The rage festers and we are left under a pile of loneliness and debilitating shame… The shame is as bad as the rage and just as damaging.
-Minna Dubin

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