How's your primary relationship? I'm talking about your relationship with yourself!
Do you ever say unkind words to yourself? Would you say those words to someone you love?
Parents, when you are hard on yourself, there are ripple effects. You may think your kids aren't listening, but those are the only times they ARE listening! They absorb more than we think. Our kids are learning self acceptance (or self criticism) by how we treat ourselves. If you wouldn't say something to your beloved, try not to say it to yourself.
Here are 3 Steps to Self Acceptance, based on mindfulness practices:
Observe your unkind thought. Don't pile on by judging yourself further. Just notice the thought.
Feel the associated feelings in your body. Say yes to whatever feeling is present here.
Say something kind to yourself. For example, "It's not your fault." or "You're not alone in this." or "I love you."
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