Talking Law Enforcement With Our Atypical Kids
Edna is former NYPD and a superhero mama of kids with disabilities. I first met her when Ocean started kindergarten and I was so worried. She was one of the moms of older kids. She tucked me under her wing and shared warmth, reassurance, advice and empathy. You're going to LOVE her as much as I do. When I asked her to do this interview, she wholeheartedly accepted, saying "We need to be the example and the change."
Edna talks about her experiences and shares practical advice on how to talk to your atypical kid about these issues. This is an essential conversation to have with your child if there is any chance they will be unable to be compliant under pressure, or they may be misunderstood or appear scary to law enforcement. Even if none of that is true, talk with them. You don't know every scenario they will find themselves in. No matter their race, we all need to talk about it.
Yes, we need a new system. Until then, let's do what we can to keep all our kids safe. Here are a few basic tips from Edna, to start the conversation:
Atypical kids & law enforcement:
"You are not scary, but you might look scary to them because they don't know you. Don't worry about being in trouble. They are confused and we will sort it out when I get there. You may feel angry that they are treating you unfairly, but don't act angry because that may give them a reason to hurt you. I know you have done nothing wrong, and even if you have we will sort it out."
Dos and Don'ts to keep yourself safe:
Do keep your hands visible. Don’t reach for anything at all.
DO LISTEN and DO what they ask. DON’T RUN.
Do be polite. Don’t act angry or afraid, even if you are.
Do ask them to call your mom, if you can do it respectfully.
Don’t worry about being in trouble.
Focus on getting home safe.
Law enforcement & a group:
All of the above, plus… if your friend is being targeted:
Do stay and watch. Don’t leave.
Do call your friend’s parents if you can do so safely.
Do record everything for your friend’s safety if you can.
Keep breathing!!!
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Atypical Kids & Law Enforcement