Can We Actually Prevent Meltdowns in Our Atypical Kids?

A radical reframe, rather than rigid resistance.

Navigating Meltdowns: A Parent’s Perspective

They’re not just unpleasant events we can wish away or avoid with the perfect strategy. I used to think that if only I could get everything "just right," maybe I could prevent them from happening.

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Meltdowns, particularly for our neurodivergent kids, are a way to release overwhelming feelings and tension.

I’ve gotten better at regulating myself through my son Ocean’s meltdowns. With maturity, there are fewer meltdowns, and they’re shorter, but they do still happen. Ocean and I have also gotten better at the repair stage afterward. My focus is more on how we handle ourselves during these times, than about trying to stop them altogether.

Creating Supportive Conditions When We Can

So, what should we do? While we may not be able to completely prevent meltdowns, there are ways we can provide support for our kids that might reduce their intensity or frequency.

• We can make small adjustments, like ensuring our kids are …